A reader writes to advice columnist R. Eric Thomas about the ongoing conflict with their sister, who has a history of trying to turn their parents against them and gaslighting behavior. The reader is unsure whether to continue a relationship with their sister, who refuses to go to therapy or work on their issues. Thomas suggests that the aggressive behavior from the sister may indicate deeper psychological or emotional issues, and since the sister refuses to work on them, the reader should focus on their own peace and set boundaries.
Thomas advises the reader to decide what kind of relationship is tolerable for them and to consider the sister as she is, rather than hoping for change. He recommends setting boundaries and maintaining a distance to prevent getting drawn back into the drama. The reader has already tried to work out issues with their sister to no avail, so there may not be a need for a big separation conversation.
Ultimately, Thomas suggests that the reader focus on their own well-being and make decisions that will help maintain their peace. The column concludes with contact information for sending questions to Thomas, along with information on how to follow him on social media and sign up for his newsletter.
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